One of the “what ifs” in my latest Pride and Prejudice vagary, A Dance with Mr. Darcy, revolves around Lydia’s marriage to Mr. Wickham. What if the marriage could be voided? What would it entail to break her bond to the gentleman?
In my tale, after less than two months of marriage, Mr. Wickham has sent Lydia home to Longbourn. She believes he did so to protect her, for he was to be sent to the Continent with the Newcastle forces of King George’s Army. In reality, Wickham has abandoned her. He means to ditch her permanently. We must understand that during the Regency, Wickham’s doing so would indicate to the world that his wife was immoral. Realizing the shame Lydia’s new situation brings to the family, Elizabeth has accepted a man who is cruel and abusive, but who agrees to allow Elizabeth to bring Lydia with her into his household. The problem is that Lydia is in a state of perpetual limbo. She cannot remarry as long as Mr. Wickham lives. She has no future. And divorce at this time was expensive, very public, and literally, an act of Parliament.
However, Lydia attracts the attention of Sir Robert Karn, an Englishman living on the Scottish border, and he means to discover a way to release her from Mr. Wickham. Sir Robert considers an annulment or to have the marriage voided, but the reasons for an such an action were not easy to achieve.
So how did one go about getting an annulment? Annulments were only granted if one or both of the couple were not of age, were too closely related (Remember first cousins could marry, but a man could not marry the sister of his late wife, so “related” was not always as clear cut as we might think in modern times.), the gentleman was impotent at the time of marriage, one of the pair had committed fraud, one or both could be considered insane at the time of marriage, or one of the pair was already married to another. Even if one of the couple was not of age, if they did not stop living together when they became of age (12 for women and 14 for men), then they were still considered married. I think it’s worth mentioning that the fraud, force, or lunacy had to have occurred during the wedding ceremony (or before, if it pertained to the permission granted to a minor), not after the couple were lawfully wed. Even wealthy peers were stuck with a spouse if problems arose only after the ceremony. For example, both the 11th Duke of Norfolk and the 4th Earl of Sandwich were stuck in unfortunate marriages when their wives went insane. In the Duke of Norfolk’s case, his wife was locked up before giving him an heir, so that the dukedom eventually passed to his cousin.
In the Regency period, fraud as a means to voiding the marriage rested in the question of parental permission. The fraud was not the type where a person misrepresented himself by saying he owned property that he did not or held a title that he did not. Lying about circumstances was not fraud. Being drunk at the wedding was not a cause as long as one knew what he was doing. And insanity had to previous to the wedding–simplemindedness came under that category as well.
Also the idea of forcing someone into a marriage changed over the 19th century. At first force was considered only as more than a reasonable man could withstand. Over the period of time, the courts acknowledged that women were weaker and less force was necessary to overpower them. One had to literally run away or protest at the ceremony or at the signing of the register or in some other way express one’s denial of acceptance. The court did not take into consideration such things as a threats.
Marriages could be annulled if the spouse was a previous in-law or if one was impotent. I know you have seen it in numerous romance novels, but non-consummation was not grounds for an annulment. Consummation could strengthen a claim of marriage in Scotland and could throw doubt over a claim of being forced into marriage, but non-consummation was not grounds. The church always assumed that the couple would get around to it sooner or later if they were able.
Impotence and real frigidity, on the other hand, were grounds as was a physical deformity of the necessary parts. An impenetrable hymen was also grounds, though that could be fixed by a surgeon.
Invalid marriages were those by minors by license without proper permission or the situation involved bigamy.
English law did not require consummation. Scottish law used it as proof in clandestine marriages, but only if the other forms were not followed. The Consistory court of the Church of England handled annulments. This was located in London. The Courts within Doctors Commons were very much associated in the public mind with the making and unmaking of marriage from the 17th century forward. Gradually the London Consistory Court assumed a virtual monopoly in matrimonial suits and became the most important matrimonial court for the whole of the country. It became the court of first instance for most matrimonial cases.
The Hardwicke Act simplified the betrothal contract. It was generally believed that 15 and 16-year-old girls were too young to marry. However, the law still allowed parents to marry off children as young as seven. The children could request an annulment at age 12 for girls or 14 for boys as long as the pair had not been intimate. By the Regency period, the idea of force and “own free will” was beginning to change, but change came slowly to the law and especially to the ecclesiastical law.
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Now that you know more of Regency era annulments, enjoy this scene from A Dance with Mr. Darcy: A Pride and Prejudice Vagary.
The reason fairy tales end with a wedding is no one wishes to view what happens next.
Five years earlier, Darcy had raced to Hertfordshire to soothe Elizabeth Bennet’s qualms after Lady Catherine’s venomous attack, but a devastating carriage accident left him near death for months and cost him his chance at happiness with the lady. Now, they meet again upon the Scottish side of the border, but can they forgive all that has transpired in those years? They are widow and widower; however, that does not mean they can take up where they left off. They are damaged people, and healing is not an easy path. To know happiness they must fall in love with the same person all over again.
“Well…well,” Sir Robert said in what sounded of satisfaction. “Now I know which former Bennet sister interests you.”
Darcy withdrew his eyes from the sway of Elizabeth’s hips as she sidestepped her way toward the kitchen. “Will that be another obstacle to our friendship?” he asked with a skeptical lift of his brow.
Sir Robert returned to his breakfast. “Most certainly not, for I prefer the younger.”
Darcy found himself frowning. It was not that he wished another admirer for Elizabeth’s charms, but he could not help but challenge the gentleman’s reasoning. “Mrs. McCaffney is the superior sister.”
Sir Robert shrugged his indifference. “Perhaps for you,” he declared. “But I possess a mother and two elderly aunts to keep my feet upon the right path. What I lack is a bit of spontaneity.”
“Does not the lady possess a husband? Speaking of which, is not Mr. Wickham about?”
Sir Robert put down his fork to study Darcy carefully. “Are you attempting to persuade me that you know nothing of Wickham or the ladies since last you encountered them?”
Darcy did not approve of Sir Robert’s accusation. “I am not the type of man to gossip,” he countered. “But if you must know, I have not seen any of the Bennet sisters or Mr. Wickham since we parted during the first part of November of ’13.”
“You appear quite certain,” Sir Robert said suspiciously.
Darcy recalled the day perfectly. He had argued with his aunt regarding the suitability of Miss Elizabeth to be his wife. “I suffered a serious carriage accident around that time. It was after my cautious return to society some six months later that Mr. Bingley informed me of the marriages of both Miss Bennet and Miss Elizabeth. I held no knowledge of the Bennet family’s fortuitous joinings until then.”
“Fortuitous?” Sir Robert accused. “And what may I ask did Mr. Bingley share of the future of the Bennet sisters?”
“Not much beyond the notice of the marriages of the two eldest,” he confessed. “Bingley encountered the Bennets’ neighbor Sir William Lucas in London. I fear Bingley was most upset at the loss of Miss Bennet.”
“The gentleman held no right to injury. It was Mr. Bingley’s choice to abandon the lady,” Sir Robert argued.
Darcy spoke through tight lips. Sir Robert’s censorious tones had Darcy’s backbone stiffening. “I suppose it was Bingley’s fault. I knew nothing of my friend’s withdrawal from Hertfordshire until some five months after the marriages of the Bennet sisters. The accident was severe enough that the surgeon provided me regular doses of laudanum, a medication I despise even when it is required. It was after my recovery began and my withdrawal from the opiate that I learned that the Bingley sisters had persuaded their brother to cry off from his proposal to Miss Bennet and to refuse his option to retain Netherfield as his estate. Miss Bingley informed me with some satisfaction that her brother provided Mr. Bennet with five hundred pounds to satisfy the Bennet family’s claim to retribution.”
Sir Robert shoved his plate aside as if in disgust. “Then you are truly ignorant of what occurred?”
Not certain whether to be offended or amused, Darcy suggested, “Perhaps you should enlighten me. Clear my nescience.”
Sir Robert presented Darcy a pitying look, one meant as acceptance of a bedraggled stray seeking a warm place to spend the night. “You shan’t like what I must disclose,” he announced. “But before I speak of the Bennet sisters, you should know that I was familiar with your name, although not your face, before today’s meeting.” He raised his hand when Darcy thought to respond. “I will explain all. Just bear with me.”
Darcy placed his fork upon his plate. He wished to know how the incomparable Elizabeth Bennet came to this existence and what the man knew of him. “Then I would demand to know both tales.”
Sir Robert curtly nodded his agreement. “You must understand I heard very little of what I am about to share from Mrs. McCaffney, so you will likely possess questions for which I hold no answers.”
“I comprehend that Mrs. McCaffney would be more tight-lipped than would be Mrs. Wickham. From my previous observations, such are their particular personalities,” he said to fill up the space between them.
Sir Robert smiled at Darcy’s attempt at tactfulness. “I knew I would enjoy our acquaintance when I first laid eyes upon you. Mrs. McCaffney has never made the effort to introduce me to another, so I assumed she held you with some regard. I am pleased to be proved correct.” He removed a flask from a pocket in his jacket and added a splash of what smelled of brandy to his tea, as well as to Darcy’s. “You will thank me for my forethought,” he assured when Darcy’s frown found a place upon his forehead. With an ironic smile upon his lips, the man began. “Some six weeks into their marriage, Mr. Wickham sent his wife home with a letter to Mr. Bennet stating that the dastard would not be returning for his lady. Only a few days short of her sixteenth birthday, Mr. Wickham abandoned his wife to a life of perpetual widowhood.”
“What brought Mr. Wickham to such a decision?” Darcy demanded. “What did Wickham do regarding his commission? The agreement was—“ He suddenly recalled that Elizabeth knew nothing of his involvement in Wickham and Miss Lydia’s marriage.
“Do not fret,” Sir Robert assured. “Mrs. Wickham has yet to comprehend your role in the matter. The lady shared with me how you tracked her and Mr. Wickham down and assisted her uncle in arranging her marriage, but I doubt if she has said so to Mrs. McCaffney, for Mrs. McCaffney has never uttered a word to speak to your involvement, and she and I have had numerous conversations upon the subject of the Wickhams’ marriage. I am the one who has placed the pieces of the puzzle together. Lydia thinks her husband asked you, his former companion, to stand up with him after Mr. Bennet pleaded for your intercession in the necessary negotiations for her marriage to the man. She assumes your long standing knowledge of Mr. Wickham’s habits caused her father to seek your assistance. I must admit that it took me several attempts on the subject before your interference made sense. I assumed you either had your heart set on Lydia and would not see her harmed or it was one of her sisters who stirred your passion.”
Darcy ignored Sir Robert’s probing. “Does the family possess any knowledge of Mr. Wickham’s whereabouts?” He wondered why Colonel Fitzwilliam had not mentioned the situation to him. Did his cousin have no knowledge of Wickham’s duplicity, or had the colonel shielded Darcy during his recovery? A letter would be on its way to Fitzwilliam as quickly as the weather permitted its delivery.
Following a sip of his tea, Sir Robert said, “Now that is an enigma. According to Mrs. Wickham, her husband met with an elderly, but immaculately dressed, woman the day before he announced Lydia’s departure for Hertfordshire. Afterwards, the lieutenant announced the necessity of his wife’s return to her parents’ household. He claimed the soldiers training at Newcastle were being sent to the Continent, and she could not remain alone in the city.”
Darcy summarized, “And so Mrs. Wickham returned to Meryton, thinking her husband treasured her safety.”
“It was only after Mr. Bennet read the lieutenant’s letter did the family understand Mr. Wickham’s true intentions of ‘returning’ his wife to her family.”
Darcy sat forward in tense anticipation. “Did not the Bennets protest?”
“By the time Mrs. Wickham traveled from Northumberland to Hertfordshire, and then their Uncle Gardiner made a journey to Newcastle, there was little the Bennets could do. According to Wickham’s commanding officer, the lieutenant volunteered to be part of the unit serving as reinforcements and being shipped to the Spanish-French border.”
Darcy’s mind raced with how well Wickham had executed another scheme. “Such does not sound of Mr. Wickham’s nature. If caught in the line of fire, he would fight to live, but he is not the type to volunteer for what was likely a death sentence,” he surmised.
Sir Robert nodded his agreement. “It was not. Within a week of Mr. Wickham’s arriving on the Continent, the lieutenant deserted his post. No one has heard of or seen the man since.”
“Wickham is a man who lives by his wits, and his not contacting anyone in England makes little sense. Surely he must have cohorts who aided him in this farce!”
Sir Robert’s expression was more troubled than Darcy cared to observe. “One of the few things Mrs. McCaffney shared in a moment of anger at her poor sister’s fate came when Mrs. Wickham described the woman who met with Mr. Wickham. Mrs. McCaffney told me in private conversation that the woman who met with Mr. Wickham resembled the relation of a gentleman she once knew. As you are the only gentleman of whom she has spoken of beyond Mr. Bingley, I assumed it was you. I formed the distinct impression that Mrs. McCaffney blamed herself for her sister’s fate.”
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This was such an interesting article, thanks so much for doing all the research and sharing. I find that the more I learn of the Regency Era I really couldn’t live in the time…no matter how good I think they look in their breeches…lol Makes me wonder how you will work things out in your book…you could always just kill Wickham off…we wouldn’t protest. 🙂
Do you have an archive one could look through for more articles about the rules and customs of the era? I have a couple of things I’d like to read up on and I was hoping maybe you had written about them.
I do not have a formal list of items. Such is one of the things I should keep. I have done so for my series on Queen Victoria, Early British Literature, the Signers of the Declaration of Independence, etc. However, if you wish to send me the topics, I would gladly see what I have on them. Nancy Regency Researcher is an excellent source of most things Regency. She is the one I contact when I am uncertain of a minor detail.
As to Wickham, you will be surprised what I have done with him. LOL!
I went to her website so let me look around and see if I find my answers there, if not then I will pester you with them. 🙂
Oh now I really can’t wait to read this book!!! Wickham getting his comeuppance is always a good thing…lol
Just give me a shout out. I have a file of items that I keep on my computer from different conversations.
Regina, loved the article. Very fascinating. AND the excerpt was great! I can’t wait to read more. So happy the 24th is just around the corner. Thanks for your post. Jen Red
I pushed “PUBLISH” on the buttons last evening for Kindle, CreateSpace, Nook, and Kobo, Jennifer. Kobo is already up and ready.
PS I bought the book so no need to include me in the drawing. Thanks for your generosity. Jen
I am often impatient when it comes to book releases, Jen. I totally understand. I am just thankful you are one of my readers. You show me a great kindness.
Yesterday I re-watched Lost in Austen for the umpteenth time, and now I am heartbroken to learn that Lady Catherine apparently cannot have the marriage annulled and Jane and Bingley will apparently not be going to America. I do admit, however, that I was heretofore under the impression that the Anglican church, having essentially been created in order to provide a divorce for Henry, was somewhat more liberal in the acceptance of annulment if not of divorce. Ah well, now even more looking forward to sinking my teeth into this juicy story.
We do like to provide Lady Catherine with the consideration she requires, Janis. LOL!
Thank you for sharing your research. You always have such interesting history lessons! Love the excerpt. I am more intrigued then ever! Congratulations on your release. I can’t wait to dive in.
I have LEARNED much as a reader that I had to UNLEARN, Becky. By the way, the book is live on Kindle, Kobo, and the CreateSpace store as of today.
I love your writing and can’t wait for this story! Lady C might have an unexpected, angry visitor soon…;). Darcy is a widower, did he marry Anne or someone else? Hmmmm. (You don’t have to tell me, here. I’ll read it myself.)
The depth of Lady Catherine’s deceit and anger after her confrontation with Darcy is quite delicious! By the way, the book went live on Kindle, Kobo, and CreateSpace today.
I admit to being surprised that non-consummation of the marriage was not a reason for an annulment,always thought it was. Glad to learn something today
How often do we see non-consummation in a Regency romance as reason for an annulment? It just goes to show we all must do our homework if we write historicals. I have LEARNED much since I wrote “Darcy’s Passions” back in 2008.
Lady Catherine strikes again? Looking forward to reading this book.
The book went live on Kindle today, Anita.
Great article, and wonderful excerpt, Regina. Like Vesper, I’m surprised about non consummation.
Congratulations on the release of your new book. 🙂
Many thanks, Kate. I am just glad to have it out of my head. The voices were quite annoying. LOL!
Another fascinating article and excerpt! I can’t wait to read the book. Congrats on the new release, and thanks for the giveaway!
Glad you enjoyed it, Anna.
This was a very informative article on annulments, and I loved the excerpt. I see Lady Catherine’s hand in this mess. So looking forward to reading this novel.
Lady Catherine is always lurking about. Sometimes I write her with a kindness and sometimes with a bit of venom. This time it is the latter.
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Interesting article. I appreciate all your research. It helps to have it at hand when I’m writing. Keep up the good work.
I am glad you found it helpful, Gianna.
Better and better, Regina.
Did you just stop by for the excerpt, Gerri? LOL! I understand. I do that often.
I do love your detailed research, Regina! Even better that you share it with us! Thanks! Almost every book I’ve read where an annulment is discussed mentions lack of consummation as a valid reason.
Been there and read that, Glenda. There was a time I thought non-consummation would improve the chances of an annulment. I guess it makes a better story between the man and the woman if they must deny their growing attraction because they want an annulment.
Wow! I love your books and can’t wait to read this one! Abandoning Lydia seems just like something Wickham would do, and saving her just like Elizabeth. Thank you for sharing!
I am glad you enjoyed the excerpt, Laura.
I don’t think you’ve ever written an okay book. This one is certainly not in that class. Five star is my vote.
Thank you, Betty. I appreciate your and Linda’s close eyes on the manuscript.
Fascinating stuff, as always Regina. Like Janis, I’ve recently re-watched Lost in Austen and had kind of forgotten how much I’d enjoyed previously. Guy Henry (also John Knightley in Emma 1996) was a truly repulsive Mr. Collins in it. To find out that Jane wouldn’t have been able to get an annulment after all kind of makes me shudder a bit!
Thanks for sharing the excerpt with us. It all sounds most intriguing. Good luck with the launch!
I love it when authors “bend” history for their own purposes. If Jane and Bingley could escape to the future, she could perhaps get an annulment.
This story sounds extremely interesting. I will get it as soon as I’m able. If I don’t get lucky before!
Thank you for reading the snippet from the story.
Definitely enticed by your snippet, Regina. Poor Darcy and Bingley. Can’t wait to read more.
Did not realize so much consideration went into annulment of marriages. Even crazier the young ages ones could marry. Thanks for the insight.
It is even crazier than the divorce process, Karana.
Such a complicated process for annulment! Love the excerpt… you have me guessing who that lady was! I’m leaning towards Caroline Bingley! Can’t wait to read it!
This story takes a twists and turns before the HEA.
I know how much research you do and how immersed in the Regency period. I always know whatever I read of your work, the setting is authentic. I must thank you for all you do and how much we all benefit.
I occasionally get something wrong, Eileen, but it is not for a lack of trying to do the opposite. I appreciate your kind words.
And the plot thickens. Now I know the criterias of granting an annulment but it is very difficult to get. Thanks for the great insight in the subject, Regina.
As readers, we often assume that modern practices were found in history. Thanks for joining me today.
Excellent excerpt! Whets my appetite for more, of course.
Regarding annulments – I read a story once where some nefarious man essentially kidnapped Elizabeth and kept her locked up, then bribed a corrupt parson to perform a marriage ceremony, against Elizabeth’s vociferous reluctance. Do you think this scenario would be grounds for annulment, or would Elizabeth be S.O.L.?
She would have to object during the ceremony or she might be able to prove him insane (before the wedding) since he kidnapped her and held her against her wishes. Even a corrupt parson would need witnesses to the joining.
Very interesting excerpt. So Lydia is stuck as a married woman in limbo unless Wickham can be forced to return or dies.
Yes, an annulment was a matter for the church courts, not the civil courts.